Daily Independent (Ashland, KY)

Columns

February 6, 2014

Aunt in training

ASHLAND — After months of calling my sister’s fetus “it,” I can finally refer to her unborn child as “her,” or more endearingly, Harper.

Upon graduating college in December, I temporarily moved in with my sister until I could find an apartment closer to Ashland.

I don’t think I realized how pregnant she really was until I spent every night talking with her, seeing her stomach grow and watching her transition through typical stages of morning sickness, constant sleepiness and those crazy appetite swings you always hear about.

She is six months pregnant and recently revealed the gender of her baby. But for some reason, the realization I will be an aunt in a few short months failed to hit me until I referred to the baby by name for the first time.

Now that we know she’s a girl, I can say things like, “I’m buying Harper a new dress,” or “I think Harper will like this for her birthday.” It’s like she’s already here!

Since Jennifer is my only sister and I have no kids of my own (or even younger siblings to take care of), I can easily see myself treating Harper as my own.

Sometimes I catch myself thinking about what she may look like, what her interests might be — will she enjoy writing like me, be a socialite like her dad or have a knack for science like her mom?

Typically, I do not enjoy baby-sitting or playing with kids, simply because I have trouble relating to children. But with Harper I am willing to learn.

One of my close friends from Morehead State became an uncle last year. He was from Greenup, and after the baby was born, we made frequent trips back to his home just to visit his niece, Scarlett.

Like me, he had no younger siblings and it was his older sister’s first child. When he told me he was considering changing his future plans to live closer to home and help raise his niece, I didn’t understand why.

I think in a few short months, I finally will. Even though I am excited to finally move to Flatwoods in a week, it saddens me to think about being so far away from Harper when she arrives.

Sometimes I worry my inexperience with kids and caretaking may cause Harper to think I am a bad aunt. I hope in the next few months to learn everything I can about how to take care of kids and nurture them in the right ways.

Any advice for future aunts is certainly welcome through calls or email!

LANA BELLAMY can be reached at lbellamy@dailyindependent.com or (606) 326-2653.

1
Text Only
Columns
  • Lana Bellamy: Waking up America's youth: 4/18/14

    I once read a quote by a man saying the reason today’s youth do not have the same “spunk” as youth in the past is because they do not have inspiration.

    April 17, 2014

  • Mark Maynard: Let’s just forget about it: 04/17/14

    The older I get, the more forgetful I become. Does that sound familiar?

    April 16, 2014

  • Uncovering forgotten treasures

    You know the big difference between me and a hoarder? I mean, except that you can walk through my house and there are none of the disgusting aspects of hoarding in my life.
     

    April 14, 2014

  • Political stories worth retelling

    With Kentucky in the midst of the political season, it’s time to share some stories I’ve heard about the art of politicking.
     

    April 13, 2014

  • 0413timbizcolweb.jpg Tim Preston: Great salmon; finding Dr. Amy; and more Maria: 4/13/14

    It isn’t an especially convenient location unless you happen to be going that way, and if you don’t get there within the next couple of weeks you’ll have to wait until fall to try it out, but I had the best lunch I can remember last week at one of the last places you’d likely think of when pondering where to eat.

    April 13, 2014 1 Photo

  • Restaurant horror stories; garden planning tips

    In my couponing classes, I always had fun with everyone by telling them gross restaurant stories. In encouraging them to eat at home more and save their money, I was also teaching them how much cleaner it is.
     

    April 12, 2014

  • Feeling happy is ...

    Anyone hoping the Ashland-Huntington area will soon overtake Disney World as “the happiest place on Earth” will be waiting awhile.
     

    April 10, 2014

  • 0410markcol.jpg Mark Maynard: Brick House (South Ashland Florist) brings in $13K so far: 04/10/14

    Here’s a 14-name salute coming your way:

    April 9, 2014 1 Photo

  • John Cannon: Take this joint, please: 04/09/14

    Some of the things that occurred during our recent week in Jamaica were unexpected and even a bit weird. I suspect those will be the things we will still clearly remember long after the memories of the hours of lying on the beach have faded. I started to mention them in last week’s column, but opted to save them until a later date in the interest of length.

    April 8, 2014

  • AARON SNYDER: March Madness, sadness for Cats

    It’s just another game. That’s the message John Calipari preached profusely throughout the 2014 NCAA tournament. It’s typical coachspeak, but Cal’s young Kentucky team clung to the step-by-step approach to produce atypical results.

    April 8, 2014